You’re so vain, you probably think this song is about you
You’re so vain, I’ll bet you think this song is about you
Don’t you? Don’t you?
Those that are vain have a high self-esteem, they feel good about themselves and could often be described as being narcissistic. In fact psychologists are espousing that there has been an explosion of narcissism by those living in the age of entitlement.
The Baby Boomers are probably responsible for this epidemic. We grew up, often with parents who were still in the Victorian Age, and were taught not to blow our own trumpet. The only reason we would look in the mirror would be because your mother said “Have you seen yourself lately?” or “you aren’t going out looking like that are you?” If we were proud of our good grades or some other achievement we were not permitted to gloat, not even a little but rather we had to play it down. In Christianity, vanity was considered an example of pride, one of the seven deadly sins which justified our parents responses.
As a result, when they began their own families Baby Boomers almost en mass decided that their children were not going to suffer from low self-esteems as they had and consequently spoilt their children believing that if you made people feel good about themselves they would have a greater chance of realising their potential. Humility is out; hubris is in.
Sadly it has backfired. Teachers find these narcissist children bad students and difficult to teach. Employers find them poor employees and they often have trouble with relationships. Additionally, as they have only been given positive feedback in their younger years they don’t know how to cope with negative responses or indeed any critical feedback. The only possible response to negativity is Rage.
Dr Adrian Furnham describes it as being “Lord of the Highchair, the megalomania of the infant who is inevitably dethroned but is scared by the experience.”
I don’t think that all Generation X and Y are like this, nor do I think that earlier generations were exempt from being this way – I can think of a number of statesmen and prime ministers who more than likely were fine examples – but I do know that rage is on the increase and being vain is a major factor in this phenomenon.
I had to add the song in at the front. I couldn’t get it out of my head when I was pondering vain. It got me going so I put it in.